The Option Dialog
The Option Dialog/Method gives the blueprint for my coaching conversations.
About the Option Method
Developed in the 70s by Bruce di Marsico, the Option Method is a questioning method which can be done alone or in a dialog.
The principle hypothesis underlying it, which is investigated in every dialog, is that nothing forces us to be unhappy, but we only believe it does.
So its one and only purpose is to question why we think we have to be unhappy by really digging into our core existential and emotional beliefs.
Wanting & Unhappiness
An example of a core belief that often shows up in the dialogs is: "I have to be unhappy if I don't get what I want."
This might seem so obvious to be beyond questioning. But aren't there many things that you currently want and don't have that you don't feel bad about? You probably want a million dollars, but do you feel bad about not having them?
As it turns out, many such "obvious" assumptions that are taken for granted in our culture and upbringing are not so obvious once seriously questioned.
What This Is Not
The Option Method definitely does not say you should not be unhappy. It is fine, you are okay just as you are.
The Option Method also does not give any advice on practical matters nor does it challenge or question the accuracy of factual beliefs.
Lastly, the Option Method is not about imparting some beliefs or wisdom from one person to another. It is designed to help the client come to their own conclusions.